Stop apologising to your piercer about things outside of your control! Every day I come into the studio, and especially on days I am piercing, at least one client will apologise for something they don’t need to apologise for. There is a million reasons why people may over-apologise, including being nervous, concerned or overthinking. But I am here to help calm those nerves, and tell you things not to apologise for and why you shouldn’t apologise!
Things not being in your budget!
When I talk you through pricing and jewellery selection, I like to break down the cabinets we have and what jewellery is in each one. Sometimes, I’ll have a client fall in love with a piece that is out of their budget, and apologise! I even had someone say “I hope you don’t think i’m being tight!’ And I don’t! It’s okay to have a budget and stick to it!
At Rogue we offer a range of jewellery, from simple plain balls to the most extravagant gold, because we WANT to cater for everyone’s budget and personal needs. We are not here to judge you based on how deep your pockets are, and we want you to leave the studio feeling happy and comfortable with whatever you choose!
Changing the placement of your piercings!
As your piercer, we can only advise you of placement. We are not the ones who have to look at it every day, and as long as it’s a safe placement, we don’t care! We always start with the *ideal* placement that we think would be the most suitable, but if you don’t like it that’s okay, we won’t be offended. If you choose a placement that we think might not fit your needs, we will discuss that with you. For example, some people’s final goal for a nostril piercing is a ring, but they want that initial placement to be quite high up, and so we will discuss that the higher you go the bigger the ring.
I’ve also marked multiple placements for a client when they’ve been unsure, and still settled on my original marking. You don’t need to apologise for that neither. We’d rather you be 100% certain about the placement, because it is easier to change the mark than to change a whole piercing channel!
Taking your time in decisions!
Quite often I have clients that may spend 5-10 minutes choosing jewellery, and asking to see individual pieces and how they’d sit. This is also okay, and if anything we encourage it. Our aim during your appointment is to make sure that when you leave you are happy and content with your choices. Some people are also indecisive! When clients apologise, I like to make a joke that “they should see me in the chocolate aisle in Tesco!” I don’t want you to feel rushed or forced into a decision. The same way that I want to make sure I am going to enjoy whatever chocolate bar I choose, I want to make sure you are going to be happy with the jewellery that you are going to wear!
“Wasting” our time!
Especially if you have an appointment, there is no such thing as wasting our time. When you book an appointment with us, that is our time. If that is a 10 minute appointment for a quick check-up, a 30 minute appointment for a pair of lobes, or even halfway with a 20 minute consultation, that is our time. If we spend most of the appointment browsing jewellery or remarking or even discussing further piercing plans, that is time well spent.
Too often I have clients apologising because they feel like they’ve wasted my time. As long as you leave the studio satisfied or at-ease, then my job is done and I am happy.
This isn’t a comprehensive list of everything you shouldn’t apologise for, but I hope it makes some of you feel more at ease about your appointments with us. I think it’s really important to remember that we are just regular people too! Piercing may be our jobs, and we may be passionate about it, but at the end of the day our main focus is always providing the best experience for you, from start to finish.
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